So have you ever been faced with wanting something but in return you not willing to give back. Sometimes its easy to dismiss the little things over the big things when wanting things but when your asked to give back in return its never a unselfishly returned. I have recently encountered situations in life where people want things from me but are not willing to give in return. I do not care how big or little the wants are, it just so happens to be that its "ONE SIDED" You would think that of all people in our lives that our own family would be willing to help out when one needs it.
How about in times where you know that people are just careless with their money, need things done in their lives, but choose not to do it because its not as important to them as playing around in life.. Then when times get hard they come asking for help because they cant afford to do the things that should have been done in the first place. I have experienced this a lot with many family members. I believe its time to put people in place and tell them " You figure out whats more important and fix it ".
I do believe that its different when the helping hand is given to those who work hard and do not ask for it because they struggle to make it because the important things in life come first to them and after all said and done, cant afford fix something, so its offered to help them because the love inside of us knows they are humble people. However its not OK to be the lending hand when one uses their money foolishly. I have been used and bruised because people don't value the understanding of smart decision making and put other things before the most important ones..
When others are not willing to help my family out on the most important times in our lives, but in return ask me for something, that is not logical, its selfish (Regardless of the issue), and need to think twice about asking me for something when your not willing to look at the big picture in life.
THESE PEOPLE WILL NEVER USE & BRUISE ME AGAIN!!!!!!!!!
Tuesday, June 29, 2010
Thursday, June 10, 2010
What "is" Family
We take time every day to look at people, but we never stop to wonder what makes them special. We have people in our lives every day from those we interact with at the local Starbucks to those we work with. We also have those we feel are important people in our lives. These people are friends, neighbors, and family members. How often do we consider our friends our family or family to be non family. If we are family are we honestly that close to one another or are we just saying that because it makes us feel good to be loved by someone.
Family's have bonds, from brother hood/ sister hood to husband and wife, from Father son, and Mother daughter. Is it ever OK to say that ones bond is less or more then another. If you knew that your sibling was struggling or green around the ears when it comes to life challenging decisions would you let them sink or continue to help be there for them and give them guidance. Better yet would be giving them guidance be breaking the rules that some may say that only a mother and a father should be giving advice on. Is it ever appropriate to feel that its OK to stand back and let our loved ones lose out on opportunities because better things come our way.
I know it depends on the situations and I am sure that people have mixed feelings. I just can not rationalize with someone saying that the bond of brother-hood is the same as someone being seen as a "STEP CHILD". Yes family can make stupid decisions, should we not be there for them to say HEY WTH were you thinking??? There is a time when you would feel people should grow up and control their emotions. Would it be fair to trash someones relationship because they play a role in ones life. Would you leave a family member behind knowing that they would be lonely, have no friends or family around, or would you invite them to bigger opportunities if it allowed.
I am 35yr educated and successful person, who loves my family very much. I have a bond with my children, wife, and family. I am not one who would leave anyone behind that is a family member just because others feel its not normal. I have a brother who lives here in Texas with me. No other family members here. I maybe going to Grad school with our with out my wife and kids, depending on the situation financially (which will be a decision made between my wife and I and none other. I would come home every break, Thx giving Xmas, Spring Break.. Etc... I have invited my brother to go with me(which I feel would help financially) but it has been said to me that I should go with out him. I was dumbfounded to hear that its not normal for brothers to look out for one another in the way I look out for him. My brother doesn't get the guidance the same from his mom and dad or other siblings as he does for me. Sure he could go live with other family or even stay here. I have talked to him and he said if I move he didn't want to stay in Texas by himself. So me thinking I am smart, felt financially he could help pay the rent since I will only be working part time. However it sparked controversy with another that I am not being a brother to him that I am being a father figure to him and to leave him behind and let him do what he is going to do. It made me sick and I honestly can not believe that someone is going to trash brother hood for my desire to tak him with me. I just do not understand why people feel the way they do and how that affects them personally if I was take him. Its not like it puts their life on hold, and its not like he is having to live with them if I go with out him.
Is it fair to be told I don't care about ones feelings because I do not see it the way they do. I look at the big picture here. I will look at it in such a way that my wife and "I" will be able to make it while we are apart from one another "IF THAT'S WHAT WE DO". We already know that financially it would be better for her to stay here and have her mom move in with her and the kids so she can keep her job which pays good money and has many perks.. If we went with the family, we now have daycare expense, she has to find a regular full time job which will make much less then she makes now because of the type of job she has, and rent would be much more for 4 then it would be for 2.
People work across the nation from one another and live separately to accomplish goals for short periods of time. Who is to say that we can't do it successfully. I love my wife and children more then life. However I also want to capitalize off the best situation as possible. I just know what family is and what it is not. Family doesn't turn its back on another regardless and Family is about helping everyone become better, whether it be work, friends, school, and or building upon our own relationships. I was raised different then others may have been and I just do not feel that its wrong to want a family member to go with me if my wife and kids are staying with mom-inlaw.
Family's have bonds, from brother hood/ sister hood to husband and wife, from Father son, and Mother daughter. Is it ever OK to say that ones bond is less or more then another. If you knew that your sibling was struggling or green around the ears when it comes to life challenging decisions would you let them sink or continue to help be there for them and give them guidance. Better yet would be giving them guidance be breaking the rules that some may say that only a mother and a father should be giving advice on. Is it ever appropriate to feel that its OK to stand back and let our loved ones lose out on opportunities because better things come our way.
I know it depends on the situations and I am sure that people have mixed feelings. I just can not rationalize with someone saying that the bond of brother-hood is the same as someone being seen as a "STEP CHILD". Yes family can make stupid decisions, should we not be there for them to say HEY WTH were you thinking??? There is a time when you would feel people should grow up and control their emotions. Would it be fair to trash someones relationship because they play a role in ones life. Would you leave a family member behind knowing that they would be lonely, have no friends or family around, or would you invite them to bigger opportunities if it allowed.
I am 35yr educated and successful person, who loves my family very much. I have a bond with my children, wife, and family. I am not one who would leave anyone behind that is a family member just because others feel its not normal. I have a brother who lives here in Texas with me. No other family members here. I maybe going to Grad school with our with out my wife and kids, depending on the situation financially (which will be a decision made between my wife and I and none other. I would come home every break, Thx giving Xmas, Spring Break.. Etc... I have invited my brother to go with me(which I feel would help financially) but it has been said to me that I should go with out him. I was dumbfounded to hear that its not normal for brothers to look out for one another in the way I look out for him. My brother doesn't get the guidance the same from his mom and dad or other siblings as he does for me. Sure he could go live with other family or even stay here. I have talked to him and he said if I move he didn't want to stay in Texas by himself. So me thinking I am smart, felt financially he could help pay the rent since I will only be working part time. However it sparked controversy with another that I am not being a brother to him that I am being a father figure to him and to leave him behind and let him do what he is going to do. It made me sick and I honestly can not believe that someone is going to trash brother hood for my desire to tak him with me. I just do not understand why people feel the way they do and how that affects them personally if I was take him. Its not like it puts their life on hold, and its not like he is having to live with them if I go with out him.
Is it fair to be told I don't care about ones feelings because I do not see it the way they do. I look at the big picture here. I will look at it in such a way that my wife and "I" will be able to make it while we are apart from one another "IF THAT'S WHAT WE DO". We already know that financially it would be better for her to stay here and have her mom move in with her and the kids so she can keep her job which pays good money and has many perks.. If we went with the family, we now have daycare expense, she has to find a regular full time job which will make much less then she makes now because of the type of job she has, and rent would be much more for 4 then it would be for 2.
People work across the nation from one another and live separately to accomplish goals for short periods of time. Who is to say that we can't do it successfully. I love my wife and children more then life. However I also want to capitalize off the best situation as possible. I just know what family is and what it is not. Family doesn't turn its back on another regardless and Family is about helping everyone become better, whether it be work, friends, school, and or building upon our own relationships. I was raised different then others may have been and I just do not feel that its wrong to want a family member to go with me if my wife and kids are staying with mom-inlaw.
Sunday, June 6, 2010
Recent Plans
So we have some recent plans that we made and I am so excited. We are going to take our family trip this year to go to the Utah vs BYU game over Thanksgiving weekend. We will be spending Thanksgiving with Stan & Debbie. Head to the game on Friday afternoon and come back Sunday morning. Head back home on Monday. This will break up our trip and we will get to see some good friends and family along the way.
Tracy and I are going to Austin June 26th and getting away to see Jeff Dunham. My favorite comedian who loves to play with puppets. I wonder if I will get to meet Bubba J. For some reason the dude make me laugh so hard that tears roll down my face.
I am almost done with my Motivational Psychology Class. This is the last week. WOOHOO.. Then I take off a week and then start A & P 1. I graduate July 10th in Arlington TX with my Bachelors Science of Business Management. Long over due I know but I usually wait until the last minute to get my goals going. I am starting to focus more on my Doctorate Degree. I am so pumped. Just a few more classes to go and I will be all done with my Pre-requisites. I will keep everyone posted as it gets closer.
Tracy and I are going to Austin June 26th and getting away to see Jeff Dunham. My favorite comedian who loves to play with puppets. I wonder if I will get to meet Bubba J. For some reason the dude make me laugh so hard that tears roll down my face.
I am almost done with my Motivational Psychology Class. This is the last week. WOOHOO.. Then I take off a week and then start A & P 1. I graduate July 10th in Arlington TX with my Bachelors Science of Business Management. Long over due I know but I usually wait until the last minute to get my goals going. I am starting to focus more on my Doctorate Degree. I am so pumped. Just a few more classes to go and I will be all done with my Pre-requisites. I will keep everyone posted as it gets closer.
Wednesday, June 2, 2010
Its been a while
So I took a break from the good ol' blog. I am back for a while to see if this helps alleviate my stress that I have had for a while. So this year has been interesting to say the least. Jr turned 10, Ashlyn turned 2 and Stan, Debbie, and Parker came to visit. We went to San Antonio to Sea World and had some fun. It was great to see them as we had not seen them for about a good year, well at least since Debbie Baby Shower. Stan had Surgery from wrecking his bike during a race in Alamosa Co. It put him out of work for a few weeks. I got through my Chem 1 Class with a C and just finished my Chem 2 class 2 weeks ago. I ended up with a B. Current I am taking Motivational Psychology and I graduate with my Bachelors in Business Management in July of this year. I will be Taking Anatomy and Physiology 1 and 2, and Trig this summer. Physics 1 starts in the fall and I also Apply for Grad School at University Of Utah. Life has been very hectic as you can see. We also tried to buy this house and I was the most determined to get it done I almost caused myself a stress attack. Lucky for me Heavenly Father stepped in again to save us from a mistake we would have made. Knowing that I wanted to go to the U for my Doctorate what was I thinking buying a freaking house. Glad it didnt happen though. I had a "FREAK" incident over the last month. I tripped over Ashlyn's tricycle and landed on Jr Mountain Bike. I had his handle bar go straight through my armpit.. "OUCH".... The pictures are here for you all to enjoy..Now that I have caught you all up current on what is going on with my life lets tell you a little about the family.
Tracy is doing well. She has been working as a nanny still for Star. She has not been as stressed so I think that its either getting easier for her or she is gaining more control over the kiddos. She has also started school and is well on her way to finishing her A.A.S in Business to begin her BS in Education. I fully support her. She also will be working again when we move to Utah if I get accepted for grad school. We shall see what she decides to do for work. She always has her MA to fall back on.
Jr. well lets just say he is doing ok. He is 10 thinks he is 18 and can make grown up decisions. He used to be a daddy's boy but has become more of a mama's boy. Wants a cell phone so bad, but is not getting one until he is 12. Thats "MY" rule. After the call I had from a customer (I am level 3 support for T-Mobile)saying to shut down sms because her son is sending nude pics to a girl, I thought maybe push Jr's cell to "NEVER".... He is almost done with his 4th grade year. I am proud of him because he is doing well in school. We are on a mission to get him out of Thomas Elementary and have him go back to Rasor elementary. We shall see how that goes. Maybe he will change his mind now that he has made several friends. Found he is alergic to every type of tree, grass, "cockroaches" and most nuts accept Peanuts of all nuts.. Must have a Epi pin incase of emergencies.
Ashlyn is just ashlyn.. "PERFECT".. She is my little girl, angel, sweetness, honery, fiesty, dancing queen. She amazes me every day. What a special child she is. Love watching her grow up and play and whine, and smile when you wink at her. She is truly a daddy's girl. Has me wrapped around her finger. Ashlyn has allergys as well. She is alergic to Egg, Cows Milk, and something else.. She also needs a Epi pin in case of emergencies. Summer will be fun. Thinking about having a membership to Frisco Water Park again. That will be fun since Ashlyn should be old enough to not cry every time we put her in there.
I know this is long, but its overdue.. I hope to be back on and write something really really jucy as I used to do. Lets see who gives me something to talk about first.
Tracy is doing well. She has been working as a nanny still for Star. She has not been as stressed so I think that its either getting easier for her or she is gaining more control over the kiddos. She has also started school and is well on her way to finishing her A.A.S in Business to begin her BS in Education. I fully support her. She also will be working again when we move to Utah if I get accepted for grad school. We shall see what she decides to do for work. She always has her MA to fall back on.
Jr. well lets just say he is doing ok. He is 10 thinks he is 18 and can make grown up decisions. He used to be a daddy's boy but has become more of a mama's boy. Wants a cell phone so bad, but is not getting one until he is 12. Thats "MY" rule. After the call I had from a customer (I am level 3 support for T-Mobile)saying to shut down sms because her son is sending nude pics to a girl, I thought maybe push Jr's cell to "NEVER".... He is almost done with his 4th grade year. I am proud of him because he is doing well in school. We are on a mission to get him out of Thomas Elementary and have him go back to Rasor elementary. We shall see how that goes. Maybe he will change his mind now that he has made several friends. Found he is alergic to every type of tree, grass, "cockroaches" and most nuts accept Peanuts of all nuts.. Must have a Epi pin incase of emergencies.
Ashlyn is just ashlyn.. "PERFECT".. She is my little girl, angel, sweetness, honery, fiesty, dancing queen. She amazes me every day. What a special child she is. Love watching her grow up and play and whine, and smile when you wink at her. She is truly a daddy's girl. Has me wrapped around her finger. Ashlyn has allergys as well. She is alergic to Egg, Cows Milk, and something else.. She also needs a Epi pin in case of emergencies. Summer will be fun. Thinking about having a membership to Frisco Water Park again. That will be fun since Ashlyn should be old enough to not cry every time we put her in there.
I know this is long, but its overdue.. I hope to be back on and write something really really jucy as I used to do. Lets see who gives me something to talk about first.
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